I’ve been travelling again. Only a short trip this time, three full days in Sydney with our darling daughter. She had promised herself a trip to Sydney, staying in a luxury hotel when she finished her Master’s Degree. And she wanted to share it with little ole me!! I know a day will probably come when she would rather share this kind of thing with someone else, so I was fully present and soaking in the experience while I had the chance.
My own dear Mother, whose company I thoroughly enjoy, said to me recently “Have fun and make memories now so that when you are my age and can no longer do those things, you will have lots of nice memories to look back on.” I shared those wise words with Alli as we walked along the harbour. Her grandmother was with us in spirit, if not in body. We just never know what life will bring and so making the most of every day is a good thing to do. It doesn’t mean every minute has to be filled with excitement or mind bending experiences, just that you are fully present and doing meaningful things. It wouldn’t have mattered what we did in Sydney, the fact that I was with my daughter, sharing her young, optimistic, intelligent energy was enough. But we had a great time anyway!
We ate nice food, including truffled French brie (oh my). We had Hot Stone massages at a nice spa. We fit in some culture, with a walk through Sculpture by the Sea, and, of course, we shopped.
It was during the shopping I had a very nice epiphany thanks to Alli’s wisdom. I have been looking for two summers for some nice ‘everyday’ tops that have short sleeves, but with no luck. This was the third time Alli was accompanying me on this futile quest. Poor her. As we were perusing the racks she simply said to me ‘maybe you need to change your ‘everyday’ style a bit. Indeed. I was staring at a perfectly lovely top that I could wear for grocery shopping and general ‘out and about’, but because it didn’t quite conform to my preconceived idea, I was pushing passed it. I tried the top on in three colours… and bought all three. (by the way, I have learned you should always try on all the colours in a piece of clothing if you are considering buying them, because the various colours/fabrics are often sewn by different seamstresses and will fit slightly differently. In this case, I bought the top in a 10 and two 12’s because that was what fit!)
As Parents and adults we are used to teaching things about the world to those younger than us, but I absolutely love it when I can gain insight from someone else, especially my daughter. The fact that I get to take some of the credit for making her the wise, beautiful, intelligent young woman she is, is just icing on the cake. Happiness.
Reblogged this on the harsh light of day….
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One of the nicest things ever said to me was by my daughter on Sunday. ” I wish you lived next door so I could see you every day.” I’m choosing to believe it’s for my wit and charm and not for babysitting duties. I’m very lucky in that I love spending time with her, especially shopping as she stops me buying anything I’ll look a plonker in,(or tries to) but refuses to let me dress ‘old’.
I’m glad you had such a nice time with Alli and are building such memories. Maybe it also says something nice about our parenting that we can.
xxx Huge Hugs xxx
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That really was a very nice thing for your daughter to say, and not the sort of thing that gets said unless it is meant. Yes, daughters are good ‘style gurus’ aren’t they? Thank you for your lovely comments. XX
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I tend not to comment on family posts much as I don’t have children, but I am pleased that you had a great time together and very impressed by your tip about trying on all the tops. Sydney looks like a wonderful place to spend quality time with people you love. xx Jo
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Thank you Joanna. Yes, Sydney is just about the best place in the world for me (us) to visit and spend special time. X
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Lovely to see you in places so familiar to me. Sydney, even as a resident is an interesting place to visit. My first thought was of course your daughter wanted you along to celebrate – it’s a milestone for you too.
Sometimes we need other peoples perspective and eyes to show us new things, as we become accustomed to seeing what we see, and it becomes the norm. We need update our norms from time to time 🙂
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You are so right, Ella, just like updating our computer software, we need to update our ‘norms’! X
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Not at all surprised that Allison can solve a fashion stumbling block. I love this post. I love that photo of you and her at the beach. It takes a great city to live up to the vibes that you two have together.
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What a lovely thing to say about the Sydney vibes living up to what we have together. Will store that away in the memory banks. I like that photo too… a lot.
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I’m always taken aback when something I’ve been coaching, nagging, cheerleading, repeating ad naseum to my kids about, in every form available from the parenting handbook, comes back in a slightly different form as wisdom from those very same kids and pointed at me.
The message I send to them of ‘Go out there and try something new. Be brave. Be bold. Taste life,’ is unsettling when it comes back to me in the form of, “That means you too, Mom.” Unnerving and scary, but I suppose ultimately necessary.
It’s a marvelous thing, Ardys, that your mother has built three generations of wise women. Success!
Congratulations to all of you. 😉
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Every now and then when I say something I actually ‘feel’ like my Mum, and every now and then when my daughter says something I actually feel like a child, learning something (but in a good way). Very interesting, and yes, kudos to my Mum for building the foundation of wisdom.
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