I’ve been holding out on you. I had this little story bubbling away in the deep recesses of my brain. It happened on our recent trip to South Australian wine country. Our first and second nights in the Coonawarra region, we stayed at a small set of holiday apartments called ‘Must at Connawarra‘. Being tired and having had our late lunch in Naracoorte we opted to have some nibbles and a bottle of red in the apartment instead of going out for dinner. However, before retiring for the evening in our accommodation, we ‘needed’ to visit my husband’s old haunt, Heyward’s Pub (actually the real name is Heyward’s Royal Oak Hotel, but in my experience most folks refer to the local hotel as ‘the pub’).
Don lived in Penola over 40 years ago when he first came to Australia as a teacher. He spent two years there, and if my piecing together of his stories serves me, at least 6 months of which must have been in the pub!! He was sure the owner from those days, Jon Heyward, was still there since the Pub still brandished his name. While we were having a quiet cider with our American friends, a man came up and asked the four of us where we were from. Our friends answered Chicago, but then added that Don and I were from Alice Springs.
Upon hearing that, the man’s eyes narrowed and you could see the wheels turning in his head… his gaze slowly shifted in Don’s direction and asked if he was a former teacher at the high school? When Don answered in the affirmative the man slapped his leg and declared Don was the thorn of his young life!! Turns out, as a kid he was a bit of a ‘lad’ in school and he remembered Don too well, and not in a warm fuzzy way! We all had a good laugh but he left us wondering if he was laughing less about the ‘fun’ of the old days, and more with relief that they were over!
As we were leaving the pub, another man stopped us and said to Don ‘I heard you was here!’ We looked up and it was the publican! The very man who had served Don and friends, over 40 years ago. “I tried to look you up in Darwin about 10 years ago!” he said. “We haven’t lived in Darwin for 22 years” Don replied. Jon laughed and said, “Well, I never would have found you then. I just thought you had gone back to America.” We told the publican we were returning for dinner the following evening and would visit more then.
Upon arrival at the Pub the following evening, Jon met us and took us to a table he had reserved for us, in front of the fire in the dining room, certainly the best seats in the Pub, especially on a cold evening. He brought us a round of drinks on the house (something he never did 40 years ago, how could a publican ever buy just one drink for someone?) and said to Don “I’ll bet I never bought you a drink all those years ago!” Don laughed and Jon disappeared since he was working in the bottle shop that evening. But he returned several times during our meal to make sure all was as it should be.
And then, finally, as we were leaving he approached Don and pulled a gift out from behind his back… an old style (but not old) water jug like the ones pubs used to keep on the bar for people to water their whiskey. It is not a beautiful work of art, but it was given with affection. We have brought it home as a memento of that evening and all those other evenings Don would have had 40+ years ago.
I’m very happy, as a relative newcomer to this country, that Pubs have not completely gone. To be sure, they have changed a lot. For one thing, women are allowed in the ‘front bar’ now! But also because whenever we travel we know that if we find the local pub, we will have a warm welcome and a decent meal… and possibly a bit of personal history. Cheers!
What a very sweet tale of time past and present – pubs here struggle but most have embraced serving food as well as drink and as all are no smoking these days are much easier places to be in. Did Don feel warm and fuzzy being remembered? 😉
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Actually, I think he did feel very warm and fuzzy… but that could have been the red wine we’d been sampling all afternoon!
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Just as well Don remembered to pay his bar tab all those years ago. That must have been a lovely occasion for you all to see him remembered. Proof positive he hasn’t changed much.
xxx Huge Hugs xxx
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It was as if we were being allowed a little porthole into Don’s past and it was a very lovely thing indeed. He has always been a very nice person but it’s a bit special to see that played out with people from his ‘previous life’. Of course I know him from before that even… I just lost him there for a few years! XX
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What a great story Ardys, thanks for sharing…….
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Thanks Richard, glad you enjoyed it!
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Revisiting the past when you travel seems to greatly reward or greatly underwhelm. I’m so glad you were rewarded, and managed to not only enjoy the hospitality of Heyward’s Pub but also catch up with the owner, not to mention one of Don’s old students. The lovely gestures of friendship from the owner, and that he thought to try to look Don up were touching, and the former student’s lingering attitude… such a long time to harbor it, hilarious.
Coincidentally during the week I did some work relating to a property at Penola, which I was instructed was in Victoria… not it isn’t I thought, it’s in SA, and wondered how I knew that, and then I realized reading this, the knowledge had filtered through from one of your earlier posts 🙂
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Ha, that is funny you gleaned that bit of information from my posts. You are so right about visits to the past having loaded potential, for better or for worse. Don and I neither one tend to look backward so it was actually very out of character for us to do something like that. Glad it worked, though.
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I like the personal touch of this visit. Your guest travelers probably enjoyed this bit of connection. Nice.
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Yes, I think our guests really loved this interaction, a slice of another country that a normal tour operator can’t or doesn’t give you.
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What an odd feeling to see the every day surrounds from a visitor’s point of view! Thank you for sharing, I’ve enjoyed reading your journey in VIC and SE SA – it is lovely to see the place with fresh eyes – if you are ever back this way you should put a call out as the locals know lots of secrets (where to get the BEST fish and chips etc) 😀
Love your blog 🙂
Charlotte
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Thank you Charlotte. It would be lovely to have some local knowledge. We are already looking for any excuse to come back!
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This is a beautiful story, Ardys. I love reunions. I would never go to any of my own, but I’ll happily crash other people’s just to see if I can come up with a believable enough ruse as to who I am and how we once met.
Regardless, your adventures are always enviable and thoroughly enjoyable! xx
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Thanks Shelley. I don’t like reunions as a rule, though this one was pretty low key and sweet. Thank you, I love my life, even on the days when it is not adventurous or enviable!! X
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