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compassion, humanity, iamanimmigrant, immigrant, kindness, migrant
I am from a lineage of immigrants. My paternal Grandfather migrated from Italy to the USA, early in the 1900’s. I have seen his name etched into the wall of names at Ellis Island. My maternal Great Great Grandparents migrated from Germany. My husband’s Great Grandparents also came from Germany. My husband and I migrated to Australia and are both citizens of this country. If you go back far enough, all of us have relatives from somewhere else.
I grew up in small-town-middle-America. There were a few migrants in the town, but not many, and they had their share of haters. There were virtually no people of colour in the town. There were bigots, racial, religious and other, and I heard their comments all my life. Even in my own home. Even now I still hear them when we visit. I hear them where I live now, too. Bigotry is a pastime in which we all participate, at some point.
Bigotry, and its fear and intolerance, is the opposite of compassion.
In light of the political unrest of the moment, Ailsa from Where’s My Backpack, has written a stunning poem and requested us to create, or do, something ‘Great’ this week or in coming weeks, instead of her usual photo theme. She inspired us to do something that will add positive energy to the conversation the world is having. Hit the reset button, as she says. Only in our participation do we have a chance to make a positive contribution, even if it is a very small thing. Great journeys always start with one small step.
I had no photograph anyway, my tiny story is one about feeling…
The day after the US election results made Donald Trump President-elect, I had my 6 monthly appointment at the eye clinic here in Alice Springs. It is a world class eye clinic, tucked away in a none too salubrious setting. We have excellent care, however, because so many of the Indigenous people have glaucoma, which, incidentally, is what I have. An appointment usually takes a couple of hours, including waiting time in between the various exams, drops, scans and consultations. There are always a number of Indigenous people waiting as well. Many of them are elderly and very, very sad to see. Clearly, glaucoma is not their only health issue.
This week I sat quietly, waiting for drops to open my pupils for a retinal scan. Sometimes I closed my eyes to simply relax and remind myself how lucky I am to live in a place where excellent care is available, and in a time when glaucoma is not necessarily a sentence to blindness. I didn’t want to bow my head into my phone or a magazine, I just wanted to sit quietly and ‘be’.
There was an elderly, Indigenous woman who hobbled out from an exam room. She had no one assisting her and she had no walking stick. She unsteadily and slowly made her way to the seat across from me, to await the next stage of her examination. Soon it was her turn for a scan and the nurse called her into the room. I heard a small groan as she got up and she paused, uncertain of her balance. Then came another small groan of uncertainty, ‘I hope I can make it’. I know the sound of a person with hip problems, from personal experience. Without thinking, I hopped up and offered my arm to steady her. Without hesitation and with a flicker of smile, she leaned on me, immediately relieved . Surprisingly, the others around us looked up and smiled too; one Indigenous gentleman had a tiny nod and smile, with a glint of moisture in his eye…perhaps just his eye drops glistening, but still… It was a moment of pure human to human compassion that I want always to remember.
For a moment, it didn’t matter that she was from a lineage of the first Australians, and I was a migrant from far away. We were humans, touching and showing kindness. That was what mattered.
That is always what matters.
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
I might have had a glint of moisture in my eye reading that.
The only thing I can come up with in the face of all this hate is that people fear what they don’t understand. People might see someone from a different race, gender, sexual orientation, whatever it is but because they don’t spend time listening to these people and their stories, realising that they aren’t actually all that different from themselves – they fear it instead.
It’s a sad word we live in when people don’t realise that underneath it all, we are actually the same
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I think you are exactly right Sarah. Fear is the cause of our intolerance. Our minds are busy protecting us from the unknown and so they spin a scenario that we can cling to, in order to try to understand the world. But it is seldom accurate. We are much more alike that we are different. Thank you for reading and commenting.
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There was no way to stay on a necessary blogbreak when I saw your title. Thought you had reposted Celi’s wonderful personal story of yesterday . . . but you gave us yours – thank you. I hope many more of us tell our stories . . . when I come back after my break I would like to tell mine also in as brief a form as yours: have no personal blog but shall find a way . . . Estonian, Baltic Baronial, Swedish, Hungarian, proudly Australian . . . there also is a story which has led to hate for the haters and acceptance of each person according to who they are . . oh yes, I also used a hankie . . .
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It was Celi’s and Ailsa’s blogs that inspired me. If you write your story, I will post it explaining that it is your story, Eha, if you want me to. Enjoy your break.
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Ardys – thank you! I may yet take you up on it! Celia has followed suit as you know . . . Have a warm and caring weekend . . .
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Amen and amen, dear Friend xx
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Thank you Betty. Much appreciated.
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Ardys,
A beautiful piece of writing…so glad you shared your experience! Hopefully it will inspire other people to take similar actions.
I am sure it’s the little 1%-ers we do in life to help others that will overcome the bigotry and intolerance of Trump, Hanson, Abbott, Dutton, Morrison, Abetz, Bernardi, Le Penne, etal.
I’ve been on crutches for a fortnight…a legacy of a heavy fall off my bike near Adelaide Oval. The next day I travelled to Sydney/Wollongong, and then back home to Alice…and now back in Adelaide. Every step of the way, I was overwhelmed by the kindness of Qantas, airport and railway staff, and random strangers who went way out of their way to help me. I enjoyed the conversation I had with each person…my only method of ‘payment’ along with ‘paying it forward.’
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I’m glad you have experienced some of the milk of human kindness, Matt. There are a lot of good people out there and we would do well to remember that. Greater self-awareness, and staying informed helps us see a path through the ugliness. It is a very winding path at times! Hoping Lucy is on the mend, too. xx
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Oh my, Ardys, after just reading Ceilia’s post, the tears that were forming are really flowing now. Really lovely act.
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Thank you Debi. It is a tough time, everyone is worried and fearful and feeling our humanity for one another brings us closer and more powerful, in my opinion.
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Thank you, Ardys, I need to hear these kind of stories right now. We all do. Thank you for sharing.
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Wonderfully clear post. I’m at one with you in your belief of demonstrating our disapproval by our own comportment. For me, one of the greatest fault lines created by Brexit and Trump is disunification because unity is invaluable in this troubled world.
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A fault line is a great way of expressing the disconnection that happens when we use the fact that we don’t understand something, as an excuse to show hatred and anger. Fault lines just give way beneath us when what we need is stability and solidarity. Thank you Roger.
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You did add something of beauty to the world Ardys, and more so because you shared it with us ❤️
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Thank you Sara. We will get there.
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Gentle and compassionate attitudes are in stark contrast to the vitriolic rants we are subjected to daily in various forms of the media. Random spontaneous acts of kindness should be what defines us as humans Ardys. Your considered writing and considerate acts are an island of sanity. Random, spontaneous acts of kindness make the world a better place
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Thank you so much Sandra. I know trying to show compassion is counterintuitive when things seem to be falling apart, and yet, sharing our humanity, even in the smallest of ways unites us and I believe will help light the way.
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I think you know me well enough Ardys, to know at this time I’m just too overwhelmed and sad to respond to much of anything. I was in tears after “feeling” Cecilia’s post, realizing I had been ignorant of how immigrants might feel. In my mind, it was about illegal immigration, national security, and drug trafficking. The more I read from those who are immigrants, the more I see that I know very little about what is suffered.
I have utterly felt sick with the backlash of this election. I feel too much. Everything hurts right now. And I know ultimately, this is simply another opportunity to broaden understanding and practice compassion and kindness. It is a time of self-examination for all, to resolve to do better and make a difference.
Your writing is beautiful, as always. Your wisdom and ability to express in kindness and gentle tones, is often just what I need to move forth. I have been out in the orchard and woodlands quite a bit this week. That helps so much. 🙂
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Lori, I so appreciate you commenting when I know you are going through a very difficult time. You are wise to understand that these are the times that offer us the greatest promise of growth, both personally and globally. It is a chance for all of us to try and understand and to learn so that we can make the world a better place. I love that, despite your pain, you are willing to admit your struggles. We have all been there at one time or another. Take care of yourself, you are a beautiful soul.
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Lori: may I send you my love and respect for being someone who is trying to understand both sides of the equation. Wherever we live in the world we know we too shall be affected by what happened nearly a week ago. We also hurt and fear and wonder when you hurt and wonder . . . I think there are ways to come to a common understanding if we reach hands across what my family oft called ‘the kitchen table’ . . . .
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Beautiful, A. Takes so little…
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Yes, Diana, so little can mean so much. Thank you.
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