The words in the title have never been more true to me than now. The idea of ‘less is more’ goes back farther than most people commonly think, but for the most part, we attribute the concept to architect and furniture designer, Ludwig Mies Van Der Rohe (1886-1969). He was trying to help people understand how simplicity and clarity lead to good design.
I’ve just been through the first two phases of trying to achieve more simplicity and clarity in my life…by clearing clutter.
Simple.
And yet not.
I didn’t want to ditch my husband, or get a dog, but something needed to change. At the time I even wondered if I wanted to leave Alice Springs and start a new adventure. It didn’t feel like a mid-life crisis, more like a renewal of purpose and consolidation. When I began my 365 photo challenge in January, I fell in love all over again with the Alice, so I knew leaving here wasn’t the answer.
Even before that, I had started following a blog written by Courtney Carver, Be More With Less. Her advice made sense so I allowed it to inspire me toward the goal of lightening my load.
Courtney says–Having more stuff doesn’t make you more of yourself.
The useful ‘stuff’ is just what we use to illuminate our path, to show ourselves to ourselves. It doesn’t make us more, it just shows us who we already are, or can be. The other stuff is just in the way, and drags us down, holds us back.
To my friends, and any untrained eye, my home looked perfectly organised and showed no evidence of needing to be de-cluttered. I had/have a spare room with nothing in it but what a guest would need. I had empty shelves and plenty of room for more things; but still, I wanted less. To my inner eye, my life was cluttered. I was blocked…creatively…energetically. You see, physical clutter is but an outward sign of what is going on inside us. If we cannot mentally leave the past and move forward, we will also have trouble getting rid of things in our environment. We think of ‘clutter’ as mostly a condition of modern times, though I can recall quite a few old barns and sheds from my childhood that seemed full to bursting! It is greatly enhanced by affluence, to be sure, but it is also reflected in individuals who have a poverty of spirit, or fear that life won’t provide for them.
So, where did I start? Mental preparation was the first phase of the process:
- I bought only minimal things to add to the load, and when I did, I adopted the practice of getting rid of something when something new came over the threshold
- I inspired myself; reading about Feng Shui, clearing energies, organisation
- I took mental note every time I opened a drawer or cupboard, paying attention to what I used and what remained untouched.
- I evaluated which activities meant the most to me, and therefor the tools that I would need to pursue those activities.
In the heat of summer, I struggle to have enough energy to do the basics, so I always knew the task of physical clearing would have to wait for cooler days. Two weeks ago we got a cool precursor, followed by one last-hot-blast of summer. That was my cue. Phase Two–the ‘purge’, began. Things came flying out of cupboards and shelves. I became a fiend for a cluttered drawer, unrelenting to old papers. Soon, I had only a small path leading to the computer in my office, lined either side with once valued items from my life. I no longer felt attachment for them. I had assimilated what they had to give me, and now it was time to move on.
And then, suddenly, I stalled. Stuck in the mucky energy again, I was unable to figure out prices and organise things to sell or give away. Enter: Two. Good. Friends. They ‘double-teamed’ me, one helping with pricing and organising, the other helping with the nuts and bolts of tables, cash/coinage and advice. The day one friend showed up to help price things, she brought with her a little book…Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui, by Karen Kingston. Only four days to lawn sale time–I read it cover to cover in 24 hours. Even though I had read much of what it contained in other sources, I’ve never seen it all in one concise, helpful place. Along with my friends’ help, the book renewed my resolve and helped me push ahead.*
(If you think Feng Shui sounds too much like superstition, or good design, to award credence, then try to accept that the end result, ridding oneself of clutter, makes things work and look better!)
Kingston, who coaches people to help them clear the clutter from their lives, has much wisdom on the topic, but perhaps the observation that most affected me was this:
“…when we feel moved to collect a particular thing, or even when we ‘accidentally’ end up with such a collection, what we are in fact doing is responding to an intuitive need to gather a particular type of essence that we need for our own personal growth. It’s a specific frequency that we need to bring into ourselves at that time, and this is entirely valid. But life is constantly changing and moving, and we actually only need to collect that essence for as long as it takes us to spiritually integrate it into our life. Then we can move our focus on to something new.”
Letting go in order to move on, keeps us learning and discovering. It allows me to enjoy the things I have kept, that are still meaningful. I see them more clearly, not filtered through other things–or worse, stored away in a cupboard never to be seen. As I’ve cleared space, things previously stored away have come to light so that I can use them. And some were no longer of value, the way old thoughts that no longer serve us, can be let go. Mostly ‘things’ have never been that important to me. I left nearly all of it when I migrated to Australia 32 years ago. But of course, I enjoy beauty, and certain objects with emotional attachment remain. For me, it’s not about having nothing, it’s about choosing which things deserve my energy, and even renew me.
I know this– have known it for a long time.
We are all a work in progress. Sometimes the progress is slow, but it is still progress. Phase three of the transformation will be to continue the purge. I still have more things to shed. Even if scales don’t reflect it, I am lighter and more vibrant, without the weight of the ‘stuff’–that is the more of the less.
(* I later discovered another valuable book on this subject: The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo)
An inspiring post Ardys. i will try to get into my excessive collections when I return. It is always easier to live with less- less cleaning, less sorting, more space as well.
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Yes, to all of that, Francesca. Less stuff makes everything easier. 🙂 Thanks for reading.
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I feel “less is more” waiting in the wings for me. Living in 2 locations doesn’t help the cause of minimalism. We have many doubles, and where we don’t often when I want to lay my hands on something it’s elsewhere. In due course I look forward to unpacking, assessing, retaining and discarding.
It’s great that you had a yard sale. I enjoy browsing them looking for bargains but what I love most is the changing of hands, belongings finding new owners to be used and even cherished all over again.
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These purging spells are sometimes two steps forward and one backwards, but gradually I find I’m gaining ground…space. I would go nuts if I had two places to keep track of though! I have a romantic notion, that when I send things out into the world, whether by sale or by donation, they are found by whomever needs them next. One lady who bought a small wall hanging from the sale on Saturday, just loved it. She was so thrilled by it, I had to think it was meant for her to find! Thanks for reading, Dale.
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Beautiful writing and lots of hard work, exciting though! I love the images you have created to accompany this, and your little jug looks very Scandi and minimal from here, I have one something like it in a deep blue, but speaking as someone who just allowed another Moomin mug in the house I had better go and find some which I could ask to leave in compensation 🙂 xx
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Thank you Joanna. I absolutely love that jug and I found it on a clearance shelf in a department store in Adelaide. It is part of the Vera Wang collection, designed for Wedgwood and I paid $5 for it!! It was the only one left and I could hardly believe my luck. Meant to be!
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This is exactly what I needed to read right now. I feel I am drowning in chaos! Inspiring indeed.
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It really does help to keep oneself inspired with these things. This was a long time coming for me and I’m not done yet. Best to you Whitney.
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Well done you ! The hardest part is actually starting even when you know it makes sense.You’ll feel so much better now and perhaps have fun at the lawn sale chattering to new people too.
I hope you have a successful day and don’t have to dump the hubby and get a dog.
xxx Huge Hugs Ardys xxx
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You are right, the hardest part is starting, although that slump in the middle caught me off guard a bit. All good, sale is over and what didn’t sell has now been donated. xx
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Ardys, this was a lovely post. It truly spoke to me. I have always been good to get rid of or let go when it is time to clean house – literally. Material things I no longer use are given away or every so often I have a yard sale! What a great time to meet the folks who are willing to take the goods off of your hands! It is more my personal life and “baggage” that is harder for me to let loose of (drama and chaos – old hurts) but as I have aged, I find the burden has finally gotten to where I can’t drag it around any more. It is freeing to let go, isn’t it?
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Glad you enjoyed it Lori. It can be really hard to let that baggage go, but it gets very heavy after a while.
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Timely post Ardys. I’m sizing up the cupboards and draws for a major purge. I have sentimental keepsakes I treasure and will never let go but tools, equipment, clothes and shoes, if they haven’t seen the light of day for 12 months, off to the charity shop they go. You are so right about feeling lighter after reducing the load
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I cleaned out yet another drawer today. Feeling so virtuous! 🙂
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I am determined to keep working on this. I, too, get stalled in the middle. It was good that you had two friends come and help you move beyond that point. When making decisions I sometimes have a “1st pass”, “2nd pass”. If it makes it beyond the first pass, it may still get discarded in the second. And sometimes I have to just close my eyes and just do it. (I would most certainly have to close my eyes to let go of a crown and sceptre!) I love the idea of a “lightened load”, though. It is freedom. For me it has become easier with age and especially since we have both seen what can happen when you get “caught” with too many possessions. Reading back through my comment, it makes it sound easier than it is. There is nothing easy about it. But I like the thought of just having the memory.
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You are right, it is harder to get rid of things than to acquire them in the first instance! I cleaned off another shelf today, lots of old computer software and discs that I no longer have the software to read. But wait…there’s more!!! And more! It seems it will never end, and I suppose it won’t until we leave this earth. xxx
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Lovely post. This is just what I needed to read right now. Perhaps a suitable task for the late nights awake nursing an unsettled baby to sleep and pacing the floors with him when he won’t? I can mentally clear the clutter then and do the physical things in daylight at least… A logistical challenge, but I think I’m up to it. I could definitely use some zen and clarity in my life at the moment
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I hope it helps, Lisa. Having a young baby is so tiring and challenging, though, just take care of yourself.
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“Having more stuff doesn’t make you more of yourself.” Wow. I loved this post Ardys. I have been using feng shui for the last couple of years, and I love it. Every February when the new Chinese year begins, I move everything around, art, furniture, decorations and chuck out a whole heap of stuff. Everything gets a really good clean. It’s such a good way of being conscious within your space. I have a small house and I hate the feeling of being cluttered. But, I have two children, one of whom loves stuff, and three personal planets in Taurus…a sign that totally believes that your stuff defines you. So, yes, a constant balancing act. I love the three step process you used.
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Thanks so much Sara. There aren’t enough hours in the day for me at the moment, but I’m still clearing things out! Our house is hot large either and guess what… I’m a Taurus!! When we first looked at this house to buy it, the agent told us both of the previous couples who had owned it had divorced. We were the third couple to buy it, so I went immediately into Feng Shui to see if I could see any obvious problems. The entire relationship sector of the house was missing!! It was a courtyard, that was unloved and ramshackle. So I immediately fixed it up and did some work on it, and also the relationship area of our bedroom. That was 15 years ago and we are still together, and in the house!
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No way! That’s awesome 🙂 I’m going to check the relationship sector right now 😉
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