It’s not about a present, its about Presence.

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The Graduate
The Graduate

We recently flew to Adelaide to attend the graduation of our daughter upon completion of her Master’s Degree at the University of Adelaide. We had a fantastic few days together, basking in an extended moment of shared achievement.

Mum and Dad, 2001
Mum and Dad, 2001

A few weeks ago when I was organising my photos I came across another graduation. It was just as special but from a different perspective. My 76 year old Dad graduated with his GED (General Education Development), or High School equivalency degree in 2001. I couldn’t be there for that one, but I was proud of him, just the same. Dad had joined the army when he was 17 and had never finished High School. He spent five years in the army during WWII and afterward life moved on and somehow he just never returned for his secondary diploma. I realised many years later this had always bothered him. But it hadn’t kept him from encouraging his children to seek higher education. He was very proud the day he walked across the stage and collected that diploma.

Happy day!
Happy day!
Shared achievement
Shared achievement

Wonderful as that is, he did not do it alone. He had our Mother, helping him study, and beside him on the day. Our parents are often beside us when we achieve great things, if not physically, certainly meta-physically! I am hopeful that our daughter feels our Presence beside her as she reaches goals in her life. (God knows we all hear our Mother’s voices in our heads, often at times when we wish we didn’t!)

Pampered
Pampered
Room for 2 please?Endota Spa, Adelaide
Room for 2 please? Endota Spa, Adelaide
Herbal tea and a decadent snack
Herbal tea and a decadent snack

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The day after our graduation celebrations, I received an early Mother’s Day surprise. She had booked us for a Mother/Daughter pedicure session! It was so fun, and so special. I couldn’t help but reflect, when I was growing up we had no such luxuries, which I could have shared with my Mother. But I know, that she knows, she is loved. We still exchange emails every single day. For a few minutes each day, I focus on her, to share my day with her and she shares with me what transpired in her day. Often it includes our tender thoughts and love for each other.

Selfie with Mom's iPad!
Selfie with Mom’s iPad!

Even if we are half a world away from our Mothers, the gift of time creates a Presence that supersedes the need for a present, though, when it is in the form of pampered toes, is very much appreciated!

-Ardys

13 responses to “It’s not about a present, its about Presence.”

  1. Great story and photos! Congratulations to your daughter!

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    1. Thank you Delima. Best wishes.

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      1. Thanks! 🙂 Fabio

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  2. Congratulations on the Graduation, in fact both of them though I’m obviously late for one.
    I’m so glad you enjoyed the pampering session with your Mom. It’s great that she and you exchange daily emails still.
    xxx Massive Hugs Ardys xxx

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    1. Thanks David, yes, I’m so lucky that my Mum is still cheeky and kicking!

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  3. Congratulations on your family event of graduation! As parents you’ve done a great job as well as your graduation. Score a victory for the family tem!

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    1. Thanks Mel. Best wishes to you.

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  4. Congratulations… a wonderful event to celebrate, your daughter’s graduation, commemorating all the years of work leading to that day… and all the other days, people and their work, that make life so special and worth celebrating again, family and mothers in particular.
    And, your risk packing the white jacket paid off. You looked lovely wearing it with the scarf 🙂

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    1. Oh, thank you EllaDee, for remembering my ‘dressy outfit’. Yes, the white jacket was so happy for the outing it didn’t even attract anything requiring a dry cleaning!

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  5. Ardys, what an incredibly touching story. You have such a gift for turning your experiences into these delicious bite-sized sweet morsels of life lessons. Delectable. Congrats to you all!

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    1. Your insights to my posts always touch me, but today especially… tear. x

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  6. I know how proud you and Don are of Allison. These achievements in life don’t come easy. I know a few of your silver hairs are embedded in that certificate. Thank you for reminding me of your dad’s graduation. My mom said just this weekend, “I think I will go back to school.” She has always wanted to. 82 is not too old! When she was in school you had to quit if you got married. And there was nothing stopping my parents at the time. As I look at that photo of your parents I am struck by how much alike you and your mom are in frame and general looks and choice of fashion. Two very classy ladies. Happy Mothers Day.

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  7. Awww, thank you! Yes, Mom and I have very, very similar frames. No, 82 is not too old! Just saw a report here in Australia of a lady who got her PhD at the age of 93! Love your comment about my silver hairs being imbedded in the certificate! Indeed. xxx

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I’m Ardys, the creator and author behind this blog. I’ve found great joy in the unexpected and tiny things in life, as well as some big ones…and in between is where I’ve learned my lessons. I like to write, take photos and paint and I hope it resonates with you.