Tags
We have eyes to see, of course. But what do we see? As I was going through the grocery store this morning I could see that some of the veggies were a bit passed their prime. I could see the ‘use by’ date on the dairy products, that there was no fish I particularly fancied, which of the sun-dried tomatoes looked best to me. I could see the potential danger in the display that hung out in the aisle a little too far, as well as the young woman stocking the shelves, who smiled at me.
It’s true I could have ascertained most of these things if I was blind, or had no eyes. I could use my other senses, or ask someone to help. But I would have missed the woman’s smile, regardless.
A few weeks ago my dear 86 year old Mother was recovering from her second eye surgery in four months. She has glaucoma, a disease that runs in our family. She had been told more than a year previously that the condition was worsening and she would need to consider eye surgery, if she was to retain her vision. At the time she was caring for our Dad and couldn’t even contemplate the ‘down time’ to have the surgery, nor was it quite called for yet. But soon after he died, she was told there was no time to waste. The pressure in her eyes had soared and the doctor said the only option was the surgery. Imagine, in her grief and fragile state of mind, what it was like to contemplate surgery on her eyes… the windows on her radically changed world.
At first she actually wavered about putting herself through what she knew would be yet another difficult challenge. And then, suddenly, she changed her mind and decided to go ahead. The first surgery went fine but the recovery was more difficult than she anticipated. Three months on and the doctor pronounced her well, and scheduled the surgery for the second eye. As she was recovering from it, a less invasive procedure than the first one, she wrote me an email (a feat in itself, only a few days out from the surgery). It was short, but said so much… “I got this surgery so I could see you when I tell you I love you.”
If there is a better reason for us having eyes, I don’t know it.
xx Ardys
That is beautiful, Ardys.
LikeLike
Thank you Betty. It was one of those posts that nearly wrote itself… similar to paintings that nearly paint themselves!
LikeLike
The very best use of eyes, your mother is a very wise woman!
LikeLike
I agree, she is very wise, and I listen carefully when she speaks.
LikeLike
Ardys your essay is an excellent case for the thought that the ability to see
is not always “seeing.”
LikeLike
Right you are, Mel.
LikeLike
I’m sure there’s no more beautiful reason in the World.#
xxx Massive Hugs to you both xxx
LikeLike
Thank you David, if there is, it eludes me.
LikeLike
Love is all there is xx
LikeLike
Nuf said. xx
LikeLike
Beautifully written. Brought a little tear to my eyes. Your Mum is courageous. The thought of eye surgery and afterwards is daunting at any time. But her sense is very good, and her reasoning. I’m impressed both with this, and that she has an iPad and the inclination to use it.
LikeLike
Mum continues to be a role model with her willingness to move forward and try new things. The iPad is but one of those new things she has embraced. Thank you for your comment, as always, EllaDee.
LikeLike
What a beautiful post. It cheers me up to read of peoples triumphs. Your mother is courageous and knows what is important in life; love and sharing it. How lovely 🙂
LikeLike
Thank you Sophie. Be of good cheer! xx
LikeLike
Sometimes, Ardys, your posts touch me deeply–and for that I’m incredibly grateful.
What a wonderful thing for a mother to say. I can only imagine I would not be able to see her well after that for all the tears in my eyes.
As a wonky aside, there must be something in the blogging air, as 2 of my next 3 posts are about the nose and ears. You can call dibs on taste as I’m always wanting to lick the screen with your cooking. 🙂
xx
LikeLike
Very kind words, thank you Shelley. Will keep my eyes wide open to read what you have to say about noses and ears! xx
LikeLike
Beautiful, true and inspirational! Of course you know I would love and be inspired by this one as I love and am inspired by both the people it’s written about!
LikeLike
Thank you Donna! That makes the circle complete, for we love and are inspired by you as well. xx
LikeLike