Many of you probably already subscribe to or watch TED talks and you may have seen this one. It is informative and uplifting, without being judgemental. If you want to understand, this 20 minute interview is a good place to start.
please watch this…
12 Saturday Nov 2016
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ardysez 
I love TED talks. These talks are always chock full of wisdom, revelation, and epiphanies. This was helpful – a refresher course in some of the therapy and counseling I have participated in over the years. I know ultimately, for me, this is another opportunity to work on issues that have been troublesome for me most of my life – fear of being discarded or not accepted, and anger over injustice. What happened to me this week was the double whammy – discarded by a friend I loved and cared deeply for, in a very unjust manner. I am still unsure how to proceed, but I can say some wonderful people have come forth with love and encouragement. Being willing to understand and find a common thread is so beneficial. I am thankful for the opportunity to gain understanding and be an even more compassionate person as a result. And I must accept also, that what I think should happen in relationships cannot always be. Thank you, Ardys for your friendship and love this week.
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Aren’t TED talks such a great idea? This one is a gem, and so timely. I hope it helps people until they know what the next step in their journey needs to be. What a shame the issue with your friend had to happen at this time. The Universe often sends a perfect storm of challenges to really knock us off our feet so that we have to get up and look at the direction we are heading. I absolutely agree, relationships cannot always be what we want them to be. I’ve had some difficult lessons to learn that one myself. Take care, Lori. xx
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Thank you, Ardys. I like what you said about the Universe sending the perfect storm of challenges. It was perfect timing for this to happen. Universe always brings us what we need – and if we miss it, it will come around again and again until we are ready. 🙂
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Thanks Ardys for the link. I do watch TED talks but hadn’t come across this one. I enjoyed it. Some pertinent questions raised and a neat background to the left/right political divide were presented, even if somewhat American. I particularly liked the question towards the end of the discussion – ” How do you diffuse disgust” and when I recall the views, comments and attitudes put forward over the last long year by DT, I cannot begin to answer this question. I will maintain my disgust. Many older Australians are fond of the term,’ Maintain your Rage’, which stems from a Gough Whitlam Speech in 1975. It is not a call for anger as such but a reminder that we should never forget injustice when it occurs and we should be on guard when we sense it returning. Empathy and kindness, in the meantime, are wonderful human emotions and should be encouraged, if they don’t come naturally in these unusual times.
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I thought this talk might appeal to your very thoughtful and informed mind, Francesca. Yes, I found that question of how to diffuse disgust a very interesting one as well. I agree, empathy and kindness don’t come easily in difficult times but I was happy to hear the academic suggesting these as well as love being helpful. Any of these are only helpful to those who want to be helped, of course. Thank you for your comment and thoughts.
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I recommend anything written by Don Watson on the issue of Trump also, Though access to most of his wonderful writing is through paid subscriptions to The Quarterly essay of The Conversation so can’t send links.
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This was very interesting. At the end of the day, you are in charge of how you deal with these situations. You can practice hate and disgust or you can practice love and acceptance.. no one else can make you feel and act the way you do
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As someone wiser than me once said ‘it’s not the situation that defines us, but how we react to it’. Thank you Sarah.
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I literally just wrote that on my FB page!! It’s so nice to know there are people out there who are reasonable.. for a moment there I thought the world had gone completely mad 🙂
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Yes, I loved this one and need to watch it a few more times – thank you
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Yes, there is a lot to take in and I want to watch it again too.
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It was a talk that opened up many issues, and different ways of looking at what we are facing. There are things he said that I disagree with, but his discussion about disgust was very thought provoking. I think he was right that we all like to read and listen to opinions that back up our own ideas, curious that research is showing that people are moving to live closer to those with similar values.
It is a discussion that will continue on for quite a while, I think! Thanks for sharing it, and helping that discussion along.
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Thank you for reading and commenting Anne. It can only help the world if we can have respectful discussions and see things from another viewpoint–highlight our ‘blind spots’. I think the biggest mistake we can make is to stop the discussion and pretend the issues will go away.
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Ardys, I just sat in bed and watched this, and I wanted to tell you how happy I am that I did. I really feel that I understand so much more of the larger social picture (sociology!) of what is going on in America and many other places. As a lefty Lennon-ist, daughter of hippies, dissolve the borders kind of girl, I am guilty of not acknowledging the reality and fear that others may feel. I thought it was interesting how he said that each side has a congenital blind spot that the other doesn’t have. Doesn’t this mean that we need each other to make the best decisions? My partner and I are like that. That’s how we operate. It’s not always easy, but it’s gotten easier over the years as we’ve learned to trust each other’s judgement.
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Well, now you have just illustrated something very nicely to me. My husband and I negotiate all the time, very kindly and respectfully, but from very different viewpoints, and with different blind spots. Great insight, thank you. I’m so glad you got something from the TED talk. I’m going to watch it again, and probably again, so much to learn… Have a great week 💕
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I love Ted Talks!
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Thanks Roxy, I do too!
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