When our daughter was about twelve years old we had a little retail therapy session while traveling overseas. At that time we frequently still shared a change room in the department stores. On this particular day, I had gone ahead to a dressing room to try on a couple of things and she was going to join me. We didn’t anticipate the problem of how she would know which room I was in, behind all the closed doors. So, as I was deeply engrossed, inserting leg into trouser, I hear ‘Mama bear, it’s baby bear, where are you?’ I recognised her voice immediately and waved my hand underneath the door so she could find me. We have both laughed over this, especially me. She has always had a great sense of humour (can’t imagine where she gets it!) but she got over ‘cute’ at a young age. To hear this out of the blue was at the same time, uncharacteristically cute, and yet, completely her spontaneous wit.
Later on that same trip, she was really sick of travel and wanted a day off to stay in the hotel room and sleep and not be a tourist–to be a twelve year old. We said fine, knowing Edinburgh was a safe place, and especially that hotel, and that I would be checking on her frequently. There is just no joy dragging a 12 year old around a foreign city when they don’t want to go. I would go out and have a look at a thing or two, then find something for her to eat or drink, and take it back to her (there was no room service). We called it my ‘foraging’ in Mama Bear mode.
When giving her a bit of advice, or enquiring after her wellbeing, I often initial my emails ‘mb’. It is just our own special, extra layer of meaning. And love.
This year, for Mother’s Day I received a card that confirmed this quirk of our relationship into a visual affirmation. There will never be another card I will enjoy any more than this one.
Sharing it now is my further way of celebrating how the tiniest things in life can delight us, if we can see them.
Littlesundog said:
Wow… that is really sweet, Ardys. It is always a lovely thing when we can find a special way to bond with another. What a heartwarming post!
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ardysez said:
Thanks Lori. Yes, it is one of life’s true joys, the ways in which we bond to each other, and especially these little endearing events. That story was really 15 years in the making!
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davidprosser said:
That’s a lovely little story Ardys and shows off your daughters quick wit and common sense perfectly.
xxx Gigantic Hugs xxx
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ardysez said:
Thanks David. My husband and I have had so many laughs over Allison’s sense of humour over the years, very fun. xx
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EllaDee said:
It’s gorgeous that special moment remains, one of those that get collected over time in relationships, the significance and provenance known to those involved, not needing to be reminded.
A really nice detail for me is that you were able confidently to leave your daughter in the hotel, that sort of faith and confidence really speaks favourably to all parties 🙂
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ardysez said:
Being an only child, I think matured Allison beyond her years. She had her first job at 14! However, we always evaluated situations on their own merit, and that one seemed safe and she was good at staying where she was meant to in a situation like that. We negotiated these types of things as they came up and she seemed to respond well to it. Thanks Dale!
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Francesca said:
A very heart warming story Ardys, bringing into focus the special bond you have with your daughter.
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sara said:
Ah, gosh. These are the things that make it all worth while. Gorgeous story and card xo
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valeriedavies said:
I love reading loving mother and daughter stories… there’s something so special about them… not having had a mother, its a dimension I sometimes miss…usually around Mothers Day !!!!
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ardysez said:
I can only imagine it must feel, at the very least, odd for you on Mother’s Day. Of course knowing one’s Mother doesn’t always mean you have a good relationship. I’m fortunate on both ends and am ever grateful. Thank you Valerie.
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peakperspective said:
Totally squishable story, Ardys. The most important memeories I can think of are a compilation of those warm, fuzzy moments with your child and how important it is to not let them fade away.
That card is definitely a keeper. As is Allison. You two are so lucky to have one another. Well done, mama bear.
xox
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ardysez said:
Thanks Shelley. Allison has sent her Dad a card for Father’s Day last week, that is also a good one, I’ll have to see if another story comes to mind to use it. Her wit is her superpower! xx
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lizzygoodthings said:
Oh, just gorgeous xxx
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ardysez said:
Thank you Liz!
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